Things Turbo Thinkers© Need to Hear

I had some interesting conversations this morning regarding choices and identity. In one group, a client shared that her key to success was the realization that she could choose to put her own needs first. She had been taking care of loved ones and literally making herself sick by skimping on sleep and exercise. By seeing herself as the sole caretaker, she had neglected her true self, made herself miserable in the process and put on a “fake it till you make it” facade. Although she had presented her challenge as one of time management, I saw it as one of identity. Who did she want to choose to be?

In another conversation, our group wondered, “Is it me or my ADHD?” For example, I am Cuban-American. In my family, it is culturally accepted to arrive late to social events and to speak loudly. A Chinese-American shared that a drive for perfectionism is expected in her family, with the requirement to relentlessly pursue a goal until it is achieved. While these traits may be part of our cultural identity or our neurodiversity, we can choose to embrace them or not. As individuals we can observe ourselves without judgment, understand the behavior, and choose to accept it or change it. Again, we have the option to choose: who is the person I want to be?

Very often our limiting beliefs prevent us from realizing that the choice is ours to make. Once we make that decision, we can step into a better, truer version of our own unique self. We can discover or rediscover that beautiful being inside and let their light shine.